Friday, June 17, 2011
x + y = z
Why can't relationships be that simple? Have enough "givens" to be able to solve the equation. . .If I am the X, just knowing who the Y is would make things simple as pie. All I would have to do is figure out the inbetweens to get the equation to balance out.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Down for the count
So I just found out that another one bites the dust. He had a gf, yet he made it clear that he wanted me (in addition to her); however, I acted appropriately because I am not a homewrecker. But it was blown to a whole different level when I discovered that she LIVED with him. . .SMDH
(Side note: what makes a guy think that I will ever date him if he comes after me while he is in a relationship???)
It seems that people tend to blame me for the bad experiences I have had while in Winston Salem. I refuse to take the blame for the ruthless behavior of these guys; however, at what point do I take responsibility? Maybe I have made myself too easy and accessible. (I don't necessarily challenge the motives of their approach because, apparently, it is a huge step for him to approach me.) Maybe I get too comfortable after the initial contact turns into decent conversation. (What can I say? I'm a homebody at heart!) Maybe I just think too simply sometimes. (When the words leave my lips, it's simple conversation. By the time those same words reach his ears, it's a cry for a lover???)
I think I should just go back to my roots: being super unattainable. Absorb myself in school and lab. Turn down every guy. If he is too cute to pass up, then he can talk to me/text me every now and then, but turn down all invitations for a date. If he is persistent and refuses to take no for an answer, well. . .I'll cross that bridge if/when I come to it.
(Side note: isn't it funny that as soon as I declare this out loud, all the men in Winston Salem want to pop out the woodwork and speak to me? Time to practice all the polite ways to say no!)
(Side note: what makes a guy think that I will ever date him if he comes after me while he is in a relationship???)
It seems that people tend to blame me for the bad experiences I have had while in Winston Salem. I refuse to take the blame for the ruthless behavior of these guys; however, at what point do I take responsibility? Maybe I have made myself too easy and accessible. (I don't necessarily challenge the motives of their approach because, apparently, it is a huge step for him to approach me.) Maybe I get too comfortable after the initial contact turns into decent conversation. (What can I say? I'm a homebody at heart!) Maybe I just think too simply sometimes. (When the words leave my lips, it's simple conversation. By the time those same words reach his ears, it's a cry for a lover???)
I think I should just go back to my roots: being super unattainable. Absorb myself in school and lab. Turn down every guy. If he is too cute to pass up, then he can talk to me/text me every now and then, but turn down all invitations for a date. If he is persistent and refuses to take no for an answer, well. . .I'll cross that bridge if/when I come to it.
(Side note: isn't it funny that as soon as I declare this out loud, all the men in Winston Salem want to pop out the woodwork and speak to me? Time to practice all the polite ways to say no!)
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